In a statement that has already stirred conversation, Rev. Mrs. Stellamaris Ajetomobi, Vice President of The Men of Issachar Vision Inc., opened up about her views on marriage, declaring that sex is the “core assignment” of marital life.
Speaking candidly about her decision to marry, Ajetomobi said:
“S*x is marriage. Let me tell you, in my father’s house, I used to wear clothes. I eat rice, I eat any food. I have a house to live in, everything. What do you think I came to look for in my husband’s house? It’s s*x.”
She made it clear that marital intimacy is exclusive:
“If I do it with any other man, I will be stoned. If I do it with any other man, God will frown at it. So he’s the only one I have liberty to do it with, and they even gave me a certificate, as many of you that were there that day.”
Ajetomibi also distinguished her spiritual and marital responsibilities from practical household support. While she welcomes help in daily chores, she insists that her marital role cannot be delegated:
“You can help me cook, that’s not bad. You can help me wash clothes, that’s not bad. In fact, you can help me do homework for my children. I pay teachers to do that. This assignment, this is the core assignment. I can’t pay anybody. If I catch you doing it, it’s g*n down.”
Her remarks highlight a clear hierarchy in her view of marriage: while practical support can be outsourced or assisted, marital intimacy remains the exclusive, non-negotiable responsibility of the spouse.
Ajetomibi’s frank approach has sparked debate online, with some applauding her honesty and emphasis on marital exclusivity, while others have raised questions about the focus on sexual intimacy as the “core” of marriage.
Regardless of opinion, her comments underline an important discussion: how couples define roles and responsibilities within marriage, and how faith and tradition shape those views.
